I Left Him - I Want Him Back
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I had a boyfriend and we liked each other a lot. but then for some reason, i felt lost cause everyone said i was obsessed with him. i broke up with him cause i needed space. but then i realized i still like him a lot. so i asked him out again twice but he both said no. in school, he tries not to look at me, and when i caught him looking, he turns away. when we chat together, he's really funny and always makes me laugh. i asked for his hat on field day cause i forgot mine, and he gave it to me right away. my friends asked him to take a picture of me and him together and he agreed. when i asked him who he likes, he said no one. and when my friends asked him if he still likes me or not, he didn't say anything but shaking and nodding his head at the same time. no one can get any information on if whether he still likes me or not. i asked him if he still like me or not on instant messages, and he just kept being quiet, not answering. once i invited him to a showcase in school that i really really wanted him to go, but he didn't have a ride so he couldn't. i called him and told him that i'm gonna be mad at him and he said "ok". when i got home, he IM me rite away and asked how was the show. i asked him out right after that, and he hasn't answered even though i gave him 3 days to think about it already. at school, he always tries to be sarcastic to what i do and what i say, but then say just kidding, and smiles lightly. i tried to like other boys but anytime i see him in school, i'm like lost again. once when i was looking at the picture that we took, touching his hand, and face and i cried. please tell me if he still likes me or not. and wat should i do? please.
He feels he gave you his heart - and you stomped on it. He's really afraid to trust you again! And in the meantime your friends are trying to get him to open himself up to even more harm by admitting to liking you. So stop trying to get him to reveal his feelings to strange people in public!
You are trying to force him into dating you again. Instead, work on the slow and steady approach. Build up a best friendship with him. Spend time with him. He is afraid of being hurt. So show him first hand that you are more mature and won't hurt him again, and are not obsessed with him. You keep asking him out - he's probably feeling pressured here.
If you two become best friends, then let HIM ask YOU out. But it has to be his choice.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com