She's Growing Distant
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
Ok my girlfriend just got this new job. Se never has time with me. Like before we had all of the time in the world to spend with each other. Now shes telling me things like, she has to juggle sooo many things and she just has no time to spend with me. I always make sure that she comes first in my life, but she doenst do the same for me. She spends time with her friends and her parents but its like the only time i have to spend with her is when shes with her parents, or her friends. And here lately she hasn't been returning my calls, or answered the phone when im around, or whenever shes around other guys or other people she can only talk to me enough to say hi and bye. Like today i called over there and she was just hanging around but she had to let me go, because she was doing whatever.
I just wanna know if she has done anything with another guy. when i ask her what she that day she gets on the offensive. She was talking to this friend that she hasent seen in a while and she told that in a way like she didnt think that i understand. Well she makes little googly eyes with other guys when Im around, and she said that she realized that and she still does it. Its like she know how i feel when she does that but she still does it anyway.
Thanks for your help, tell me if I am doing something wrong or what. Or if you think she is not being faithful.
People always have time for the people they love. Heck, just about every adult in the world has a job - and most of us have relationships too. She has time for her friends and time for her family. That means she DOES have free time and is choosing to parcel out in a way that best suits her.
Some people are natural flirts - but on the other hand, she knows it bothers you. Yet she keeps it up. That means her respect for you is less than her own desire to flirt with other guys. That's not a great sign.
I would really sit down with her and ask her if she really is interested in dating any more - it sounds like she wants to have friends around, but doesn't really want a boyfriend any more. As they say, actions speak louder than words.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com