He's Using Me for Sex
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
There is a guy that i kissed at a party, and then after he started asking me to hang out. Couple weeks later, he tried to have sex. We didnt, but he stopped calling. And then a couple monnths later he called and asked to hang out. So i did and then one weekend, i went to his house and we ended up having sex. He wont talk to me after all of this happends. And then another weekend the same thing happends, i went to his house and we had sex, and once again..we dont talk.
I love this guy to death and i dont know what he's trying to do. People have tried to talk to him about it but he dont want to listen. He wont get with any other girls besides me. But he wont talk to me either unless its to go and have sex.
Am i being used? Or is he scared of commitment?
First off, you realize of course that ALL sex can lead to pregnancy. No birth control is 100% effective. So you should never be having sex with a guy that you are not serious about and willing to raise a child with. This guy does NOT sound at all like that guy.
I'm not sure how you can love someone who won't talk to you. Love is about long term respect and communication. It sounds like you are lusting after him - but that is quite different than love. And he certainly doesn't sound like he loves you, if he won't talk to you at all. He is using you for sex.
Stop giving in to him. You deserve someone that wants you for YOU - not for your free sex. He is using you like a prostitute. You deserve better.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com