He Talks With Me - Does He Like Me?
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
is it possible for two people in college that has a busy life with work and school even though were at the above age level of a college student so we have to work harder. I met this guy in college and were both in our 30ís and shy. We do not get to see each other much we have different class schedules and we both work and are busy with school. He did approach me first which was last semester and went out of his way to get me to notice him the problem is we hardly see each other and we both work hard with school do not want to mess things up you know loose focus on school i believe we both feel this way. He does though this semester he always smiles and winks at me with his face all lit up and I usually smile back. Last semester he smiled but it was just a friendly still it was noticeable. Heís really sweet would open the door for me things like and just be friendly towards me.
Last semester when I saw him, and he would eat lunch this semester he does not eat hardly what he does is very little which money is not important to me seeing were both in college I do not eat buy my lunch every time I usually bring my lunch do you think if he does not have much money that he is too afraid to eat with me or thinks he is not good enough for me, that he could fear that I might reject him once I know if this is the case his money situation seeing that some guys on campus have nice cars and money I did ask him to lunch and he did say yes but his family lives in another state and he had to visit them we never got to go but he did apologize. cause that is not the case money or looks does not matter to me itís what in your heart and this guy has a big heart which I fell for seeing he approached me first and I really was not looking for anyone at the time and this just happened. When his friends are around he will not flirt but acknowledges Iím around , he has asked me after college where Iím going to live and if marriage and children are in my future which he asked me more than once. He also when people are around he will talk to them but when Iím around he freezes up and will not hardly speak to me but notices Iím their.
When he sees me in the cafeteria eating and heís in their he will not go sit were i'm at and i will not sit with him I'm afraid I will scare him away but he does stare at me, just like the other day I was eating and the guy I like went outside to were I could see him and all he did was stared at me the whole time also when I see him on campus talking to other girls he knows and is very relaxed even with a crowd of people around itís just when I pass or he passes by when he acts shy when lots of people are around of course I do the same at times seeing I do not know what to say and I have never been able to approach men and most guys usually laugh at me because of my shyness but this guy does not but he tries to make me feel comfortable and when were alone were very relaxed and can talk about anything. Do you think he likes me?
Given the amount of time he is spending talking to you and interacting with you - he obviously doesn't hate you! He isn't even ignoring you. He is actively doing things with you.
The question is, why aren't you encouraging him? He's obviously shy. So help him out!
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com