A Girl is Harassing My Guy
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
alright, well my boyfriend of 5 months has a friend a year younger than i am. and this girl loves to just bring up sex and making out with him all the time...this makes me jealous
what should i do? ..when she talks like that he acknowledges me and tells her no he cant but she wont stop..i dont know what to do? any advice?
If she is pushing him to cheat on you, she is NOT a friend of his. She is selfish and cruel. He is being good in refusing her - but being bad in letting her keep it up. The moment she starts, he should tell her immediately that she is disrespecting him. He can be kind - but firm. He should tell her that if she continues, he's going to leave. And then he should. He is in essence encouraging her by letting her do that. He's giving her false hope that she COULD be with him - meaning she isn't putting energy into actually finding a guy that IS good for her. Meaning your guy isn't being much of a friend to her, either.
So your boyfriend should draw the line and stand behind his decision. That is what any man with honor would do. As far as you, I would go to the girl and tell her that you and your boyfriend have sworn to respect each other - and that she is showing a lack of respect in her actions. Tell her that if she wants to be known as someone who likes to cheat, then you will start recording each time she takes this action, and make sure that it becomes known in your circle. This isn't a threat, simply that you will be recording her actions. If she isn't willing to stand by what she does, then she should stop.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com