He Wants to be with me
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I have this friend. He always wants to be around me. He gets mad if I can't hang out with him sometimes. He has a girlfriend that lives in another state but their relationship is on the rocks.I want to know if he likes me in that special way. In ways I think so because he always wants to hang out with me and we have so much in common. But then again I am not what is called "boyfriend material." HELP
I'm not sure why you feel you aren't "Boyfriend Material". There is a person for EVERY person in the world. That includes you!
But this guy is already being slimy and being jealous about you when he already has a girl. I know you make excuses for him, that they're on the rocks. Well, what if YOU were his girlfriend. If he and you were having troubles, would you want him to work them out with you? Or would you want him going hanging around with another girl until he finally decides to tell you to get lost?
If this is his method of dealing with a relationship problem - he's not going to spontaneously change when he's with you. All relationships go through problems. Even the best of friends will fight. What defines a relationship is how a couple gets through that troubled time. He is proving right now that his solution is to cheat. That is NOT a good thing.
I would draw a line. Tell him that he is taken, that you are not his to be jealous about. If he wants to resolve this solution the honorable way, that is his choice. But for him to use you as his 'back door girl' is not right. Maybe he will wise up and learn a lesson.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com