Is My Husband Cheating?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Person
I think my husband is cheating on me but I am not sure. We work different shifts so it is hard to say when he 'really' gets done with work. He never helps me around the house and when I ask him where he is going he tells me "None of your f*** business". He went to the store once and was gone for 1hr45m and when I confronted him about it he said he was only gone for 45mins. He has had some weird marks on his back recently but they are not scrathes. His penis is raw and we hardly have sex...I am 7 months pregnant and it does not appeal to me and when I asked him why it looked like that he said it is because it is so dry where we live. He never had that problem before and we lived in a drier climate. I told him that he just needs to come clean because with a baby on the way and a toddler...I do not have time for these little games with him. Is he cheating on me?
I think the most important thing here is that you are pregnant and have a kid at home - yet when you ask him where he's going he swears at you. That right there is wrong no matter WHAT he is doing. I know many couples and they always know where each other is, in case of emergency! What if you had serious labor pains all of a sudden and needed to know if he was nearby to help or if you should call someone else?
I would address that problem immediately - either talk to him about it and get him to understand it, or talk to a minister / therapist / someone about the issue so he hears it from a 3rd party. But if you can't even trust him to be around or to tell you where he is - then what he is doing is sort of immaterial. He could be cheating, he could be gambling, he could be doing mob activities. If he's not being a partner to you, it might be time to separate for a while. You really need someone you can DEPEND on right now - not someone who swears at you for asking.
-- from Lisa
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