Losing a GIrl Through Text
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
i've been going out with this girl for about 6 months and about a month ago we both said we loved each other which is great and what i wanted cause i really like her.but then about two weeks ago she started being a little off with me.she never texts me unless i text her first,her replies to my texts are always really staight forward and boring like she cant be bothered,she never jokingly flirts with me threw texts anymore,she never asks me to come out anymore(im always the one to have to ask) and to make it worse two weeks ago she started going out with an old girlmate again that she used to fancy (cause she likes both lads and lasses).she said she does'nt fancy her now but i've never heard her talk about someone so much in my life and i think its a bit co-insidental that two weeks ago she started being off with me and thats when her old girlmate came back into the picture.
i've asked her if she's ok and why shes been a bit off and she said "dont know,i've not been right for a couple of weeks.its one of my off phases. i havent slept properley for days either".she also said that its not me and not to worry about it.but as soon as i said "if it is to do with me though,you can tell me you know",she just did'nt text back.
am i just paranoid or is something really up? she's not acting like she loves me anymore,does she?
This is a HUGE reason that you never, ever live your life through text messages. How can you possibly know anything if you rely on little black squiggles to convey important emotions?
You are losing your relationship because you aren't putting real time effort into it. Spend REAL time talking to her every day. Ask her REAL questions. If this girl is your girlfriend, she should be spending more time with you than with a friend - regardless of who that friend is. It's time for you to fix that.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com