I'm Jealous about a 2 year gone ex
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
My boyfriend saves pictures and e-mails from his ex-girlfriend. They stopped dating over 2 years ago. They don't even speak. Why does he have these pictures so readily available to view? What am I supposed to think about this? It hurts my feelings whenever I see them.
We all have exs in our lives. That's what makes us full humans. We have a history, a past. I have photo albums up in a room full of pictures from when I was a baby up through last year. It doesn't mean I'm obsessed about that guy I dated a few times when I was 16. It means it was a part of my past, and I accept all of my past as a part of what made me what I am today.
That being said, I don't plaster my walls with photos of that 16 yr old guy. I have photos up of the guy I'm with now, who I've been with for 10 years. It would definitely be very odd if I had old prom pictures of myself and some other guy hanging over my fireplace. So it all depends on the context in which he has these photos.
If you're jealous over exs that have been gone for many years, you need to let that go. You have to accept that he is what he is because of his past relationships. If you love him now, then it's a good thing he went through the molding experiences he did before he got to you.
-- from Lisa
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