I'm Jealous about my Girlfriend's Past
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I have been going out with my gf for over a year now and she is completely wonderful. I totally trust her and everything has been great with us except one thing. I have this problem where the tiniest mention of her past relationships gets me imagining the things she has done with those other guys. Once I start thinking about it it's really hard to stop and will completely ruin my day. I will get angry and resentful and not treat my wonderful lady the way she deserves. The very thought of her doing anything with someone else in the past makes me feel like its happening right now.
I'll get the images in my head and torture myself with what happened years ago. I know she would never cheat on me, I'm not jealous or insecure about anything in her life now. Its just the thought that she ever had special or intimate experiences with past boyfriends that gets me so upset. As if she was supposed to do nothing her whole life until she met me so that we could have all those experiences together and no one else. How can I deal with this?
It's good that at least you realize this is incredibly desctructive and can ruin a wonderful relationship. I have a TON of tips on jealousy online here -
Dealing with Jealousy
Make this a priority in your life, to beat these feelings!
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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