We Always Fought, We Broke Up, I Want Him Back
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I broke up with my boyfriend of three years because of too much fighting. He agreed to remain friends, but with the intentions of getting back with me. This all went on for about six months and told him constanly that I didn't want to try it again. One day he decided to stop talking to me and left without a word. A month later I realized I really do love him and want him back. So I called him and he was very distant he said he never expected me to call him back. He told me he was very confused and that he didn't deserve me. He also said he tried to forget me and took down all my pics from his wall. He says he loves me, but doesn't know what to do. He was talking to another girl and said she was very sweet and that he liked her, but didn't care about her. He didn't want to hurt her feelings by telling her that he was getting back with me. All this conversation happened in one day and I haven't heard from him since. My friends say that he saids that he loves me,but doesn't want to hurt me becuz he's changed. I'm so confused, does he love me or not?
It sounds like you panicked because you never really "lost him" until he finally left. This is pretty common in break-ups. I would give yourself some time here. Obviously things weren't that great when you were together - and even after the breakup you knew that. Don't go running back to him now just because you feel lonely. Get on your own two feet. Get yourself centered. If you want to be FRIENDS with him after that, start slowly. But couples that fight are couples that really don't respect each other well. That usually doesn't change - it's likely you'd start fighting again if you got back together again. Give yourself the opportunity to meet other guys and see what they might offer you.
-- from Lisa
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