I Want Kids - He is Stalling
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
My ex-boyfriend and I recently got back together after a ten year separation. We have been back together for 7 months but it seems like the relationship is moving so slowly. I want to get married and have kids, he says he wants to also but sometimes it does not seem like we are moving in that direction. We do not see much of eachother because he runs his own business. When I ask him to do things there is always an excuse.
I do not want to invest my time in a relationship that is not going to develop. Should I just relax and let the relationship take its course and be understanding that he is very busy or move on. I love him very much yet I think that I compare how our relationship was when we were in our twenties. We had less responsibilties and more free time to spend together. When I ask him if we are on the same page about our future he tells me yes everything is fine. I really want it to be. I really want to spend the rest of my life with him.What do I do?
It is easy to go slow and easy when you are in your 20s. When you get into your 30s and want kids, every year makes conception harder and harder. You have to set up your priorities. If you wait too long, seriously, you can miss your chance at all.
Lay out for him what you want. You're not making demands here, you are being honest. You want kids. You need a responsible male for that. You want that to be him - but if he's not ready, you understand and will move on to a man that is ready. It's up to him to make the choice if he is ready or not.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com