My Co-Worker Likes Me but Won't Date
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
First of all amazing website and it has really helped me, and thank you in advance for helping me.
Right where to start lol, i am a very shy person and had very little luck in love. I met this 17 yr old lady(me being 20) at my work place and we got along so well. Things where going fantastic we tlkd had a good time, untill i was informed that she wanted to take it on to the the next stage (Gf/Bf). I asked 3 to 4 close colleagues advice on what i should do, i did as they said which was a mistake, i told her that i loved her. I was blown out she gave me the excuse of not wanting to hurt me. Anyway she has had 2 sexual partners in the mean time one of which works with myself still and this is what is causing me great damage and hurt inside, he has a girlfriend and has had sex with her 5 times behing his gf back, she thinks he cares for her but to anyone else he may as well being paying her, he treats her like an object.
We are best friends and tlk between 1-3 hrs a night bout everything. Is that to much? We have an amazing bond but i feel hurt because i want to treat her so right but dont want to tell her as there is a risk of losing her or closing up. He talks the talk and she takes it in a puts out for him.
My questions Very sorry about the life story.
1)Am i wrong for caring and taking offence when by best mate is being taken for a ride?
2)Is it a case she is playing me! and just wants someone to fall back on?
3)What would you advise???????
It sounds like you guys talk a lot and she likes you a lot as a friend. She feels very comfortable with you as a friend. So the question is why she can't go from being a friend to a boyfriend-girlfriend. We have a lot of advice on this topic here -
Dating a Friend
Work on it slowly, don't rush into it. Good luck!
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com