My Guy is Pressuring Me

Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I have a bf and we meet over the net and he keeps sayin he wants oral and im not sure about it because im scared about losing my viriginty

can i not be scared and how bad should it hurt? Advice
Virginity is about a guy entering you through full intercourse. Oral sex has nothing to do with losing your virginity.

That said, if you aren't really familiar with how sex works at all you should NOT be leaping into that step. It really sounds like this guy is REALLY pushing you hard into things. A relationship is about people first hugging, then kissing, then going into more serious things. If you just jump into the most serious forms of intimacy you REALLY miss out on all the other great things!

It's like taking a person and handing them a gold medal without them doing anything at all. Is it really special? But if you work up to the first hand holding ... then work up to the first hug ... then work up to the first kiss ... those are all incredibly special milestones that you will treasure forever. You're about to lose ALL of that by just racing to the end. Don't do that to yourself, you'll always regret it.

-- from Lisa
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