She's Very Shy
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
I'm 15 and I found the perfect girl for myself... I also found out that not 1, not 2 but 10 other guys in my school who also have a crush on her... the competition was really tough, but I think I screwed up... I gave her some chocolates on valentine's day, she thinks it's cute but since then, she turned out really shy and wouldn't talk to me anymore... but I think I got that worked out...
now, my question... I've been dating her... asking her out for years but she won't go out with me... her reason? her parents won't allow her to go... but there's one time I overheard her parents and her conversation, her parents allow her to go with me, but she says her parents still won't allow her to go... Is she playing hard to get? Or is she doesn't trust me enough to go out with me? how can I ask her out without bringing her shyness out once more? Help me... I'm desprete... I need guidance...
thank you for spending your time reading this question of mine and please give me an answer soon...
Lots of girls are shy. I really doubt she's playing hard to get. You claim you are dating her but in the next breath say that she won't go out with you. So it seems like things are rather confused here and that you're leaping into things that you two are not ready for yet.
You need to work on your *friendship* with her first. She doesn't trust you enough to talk with you yet - so you can't just leap into dating! I have a TON of advice on the site about building up a friendship and getting closer to someone. If you stop trying to pressure her into "dating you", you might find that she is willing to let you get close ... and once you are close, then you can work on building that into a dating situation.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com