Curious about Sleeping with Another Man
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
i'm 26 years old, and i've been with my husband since i was 17. we were both 19 years old when we got married. i love my husband very much, but lately i've been curious about what it might be like to be with another man. i'm wondering if i'm just going through the "seven year itch" thing, or if this is something that i really want to do. i've even asked him if we could swing with another couple i know. my husband is a really kind man, and i don't want to lose him, but how do i satisfy this hunger to sleep with other men without losing him? he admitted that he cheated on me right before we were married, and i think part of me still want to pay him back for him cheating, and these desires to be with other men isn't helping. please help.....
That's definitely what the 'seven year itch' is all about - you've gotten very comfortable with your current partner, and while he's great, there's always that curiosity about 'something new' that exists in humans. I suppose it's sort of like eating peanut butter your entire life. Yes, you may really enjoy peanut butter. But you really wonder just what jelly tastes like, just for a change of pace for a moment.
This is one of the reasons that many people date a lot before they marry, so that they get all of that 'what are other people like' out of their system. Many couples do 'swing' when they hit your stage, to add a little spice into their love lives. They're usually at the stage that they're comfortable enough with each other not to worry about the other running off, but still energetic enough to have desires for something new and exciting.
If you do decide to swing, for most people it's fun but they realize that it's really not that much different from their own partner. So it soothes the curiosity but doesn't harm anything.
Other approaches are to liven up your own love life. Go somewhere new and exotic, rent videos that help you learn techniques. Get new toys to play with. You might find that even this guy you've been with for many years can be quite different and learn interesting new tricks if given the opportunity.
-- from Jenn
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