he is going away to college this Agust and things werent going so well he start to say hurtful things
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I went out with this guy for a year and he is 18 and im 17 our relatiship was great a lot of love and care for each other we were very happy to be with each other , but he is going away to college this Agust and things werent going so well he start to say hurtful things like if i would get in to the samw college next year he would go away from that college becouse he needs to think about his education , then he start to act like i was his friend not his girlfriend no more love no more care , so i talk to him and he said that he wants to be alone and he doesnt want to have a relatiship with anyone , plus he use to say that when he will go to college he will have to start a new life and forget about everything he had here, I love him and i really want to be with him , i dont know what to do .... Please help me , i miss him , and dont want to be without him.
College is a big change in anyone's life and it can be traumatic. You don't know what to expect until you get there, etc. Not only that but some people get a lot of pressure from their parents because it is so expensive and because it is supposed to help straighten out their future (which isn't always true). He could be under a lot of stress and just acting out in the only way he knows how.
One thing I learned a long time ago is that it is easier to say goodbye when you are angry at someone, so he may be creating this situation in order to let you go because he feels he needs to (which is probably not true).
The best thing you can do is let him go his own way, experience college and let him make some decisions.
In the meantime, there is no reason why you shouldn't have some fun now and hang with your other friends and meet new people.
-- from Marc
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com