I know I messed up by being a jerk at the end.
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I have a big fight with my over something so simple, well she almost always tends to put me aside for anyone else like her daughter, family and friends. We are always fighting over little things. We ended the relationship fighting and she made me so mad I acted like a jerk with out even thinking. I realized what I had done after we hung up, and Idecided to call her again and she didnt answer me.After 2 days she answers my call and I go over to her house with out her knowing I was going over and I surprised her. We had a little discussion and I was asking her back and I asked for her forgiveness. She told me that she was not sure if she wanted me back or not she was going to leave everything in GODS hands and if he gave her a sign or lead her to her destiny she was going to take that sign. She doesnt know what GOD has in store for her and her daugter but right now she needs some space. This woman was with me for 8 months and she was separated and now divorced, she had never had any sexual relations with anyone until she met me she felt confortable with me and I need to build on what we had........... My questions is ....I want her back and I am really stuck on how to do that and what I should do.....I know I messed up by being a jerk at the end. Is there any advice you can give me? I would really appreciate it.
First off, is her daughter your daughter, too? I wasn't quite clear on this, not that it really matters because a child's needs always come first. No ifs ands or buts about that. So you gotta deal.
In terms of her seeing that your serious, just be serious. Don't be a jerk and if you find yourself getting worked up over nothing, distance yourself. Be there when she needs you and call every once in a while just to say hi, not when you are lonely or want some.
It's just common sense.
PS If you guys are having little fights over nothing it means you are having fights over a big something that no one wants to talk about. Do some soul searching and fing out what is bothering you and when she's in the mood to talk with you like an adult, ask her what's really bothering her. See if you can work out a compromise. That is the only way you'll get it to work out.
-- from Marc
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com