I recently lost my virginity to this guy, right after i entered college.
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
ok, this may be long. I recently lost my virginity to this guy, right after i entered college. I was really attracted to this guy and we hung out alot, i fell for him really hard. Well after a month of my emotions being completely tugged, i finally gave in and had sex with him. Well i guess because he was my first i really really care about him. Well he lied to me about alot of things and he had a girlfriend this whole time. Now its 2 semesters later, and we always get into fightts and have sex, we never went out or anything. Everytime i meet someone new he tells them bad stuff about me, i dont know why. We got into a fight because this girl hes talking to now, that is not his girlfriend, she was a virgin too and i told her we had sex, well he denied it and got mad at me. Earlier this semester i went into a party and said something really rude to me, well so i went and tore up a bunch of their flyers and threw them in front of his door on campus, i dont know why i did this i was just so pissed, well i knew it was me and confronted me on the phone. Like i said when a long time goes by and we dont talk he calls me and apologizes or we work through everything and end up haveing sex again, well im tired of doing i just cant say no to him. Its like i would do anything for him. Well now hes haveing sex with this other girl that was a virgin and still wants me to have sex with him. I get kinda jealous when i see them together but when hes around me he makes it more obvious that theya re talking. They have been talking but not going out since last fall started and he says he loves her and everything, i think hes playing her and when i tried to tell her she confronted him and again he got pissed at me. So recently he called me at 4 am in the morning and told him that i wouldnt do it anymore, but i know hes gunna call again. How do i get over him,a nd tell him no, and not be jeoulous of him being with her?
This isn't high school any more. You're both young adults. If he won't act like it you should. Don't talk with him any more and tell him that you don't want to talk to him. If he keeps bothering you, call campus security. One thing colleges don't want is a sexual harassment case on their hands (yes, this is sexual harassment).
In a little while it will all blow over and you will have learned a lesson. Just remember not all guys are jerks. I'm sure you will find someone who will treat you much better.
-- from Marc
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