Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I NEED MAJOR HELP!!!! AND FAST!!!! Ok I'm like totally IN REAL LOVE with this guy named M!!! even though I do not know what love is!!! In other words i know hes the one for me!!! Ok anyways ... I am goin out with this guy S! To tell you the truth he isnt cute hes UGH!!! But M isnt cute either but i know i love M but i dont love S!!! Me and S just went to the movies and he just bought everything for me from the food at the movies to my movie tickets and my ice cream!!! I need help!!! I don't just wanna go and break S's heart after he did all of that for me!!! But i know being with S tears me apart Knowing im in love with someone else!!! I feel i am hurting me and him at the same time!!! I dont know what to do !!! What do i tell S??? What do i tell M??? M knows how i feel!!! What do i do ??? I want to break up with him b/c i know i love M but i dont wanna break his heart after everything he did for me!!! Being with S tears matt apart too bc he knows i love him(M) Im so sorry if I confused you but i need help ASAP!!!
Well, no need to hurt S any more than you have since he knows how you feel about M, so break-up with him. Don't be cruel and lead him on.
When you have broken up with S, let M know. You said that M already knows how you feel, so there's not much more to tell him.
As far as love, well, since you are choosing based on cute, maybe the word "Love" is too strong. Maybe "like" or "attracted to" are more appropriate. It takes time and experience to love someone.
PS I understand this is a confusing time for you, so be sure before you make any decisions that you know what you are doing. If you pull the same thing on M for another guy, you may develop a reputation for being flaky... and we don't want that to happen.
-- from Marc
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com