a couple of weeks ago, he let me know that he wasn't quite sure if he still did love me.
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
my boyfriend and i were dating for 4 years and 4 months. a couple of weeks ago, he let me know that he wasn't quite sure if he still did love me. after trying to separate for awhile, he finally just broke it off completely. we still talk and we are still friends, but it's hard to be around him without crying. we did everything together and now we do nothing together. it's such a dramatic change too quick. does it ever get easier?
i love him so much and i know that i always will. he has my heart. i don't want to let him go. he is my everything. i don't understand how you can just drop 4 years like nothing. when he talks about being single, he sounds so happy about it. i don't know if he really is happy or he's just putting on an act. he says it does hurt him, but he doesn't show it. i don't know what to do. i'm so used to calling him all the time. we've always spent every spare minute together. i have to get him back. being without him is killing me. what should i do?
You need some time away from eachother. This time will help in two ways. First it will help you get over your feelings for him and get on with your life. Secondly, it will either help him to decide whether he made the right choice.
Use this time apart to get control over your life. Start seeing old friends, participate in more social activities (like church or something like that). The big thing you need to keep in mind is that if you start dating to make sure that you are ready and that you don't rebound.
The pain will fade. Things will get better.
-- from Marc
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