I get mad at the littlest things that he does
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I'm 15 years old, and my boyfriend and i have been going out a little over a year. Our relationship is going great, but i just need some advice for myself. I get mad at the littlest things that he does, and then it makes him mad and we just end up fighting. Like when he has his friends over all the time, i get so mad about that because then he won't really wanna talk to me becuase he feels stupid when he is on the phone with me and they are there. And that gets me all pissed off. What can i do to prvent me getting mad so easily. Do you have any advice?
It souds like you may be jealous of his friends, meaning you are upset that they take time away from you. If the amount of time he is spending with his friends in normal, you may have some things to think about. Here is a link that may help: http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/LoveCat/23682.
You may also be upset that he doesn't communicate with you as much as you would like (or both). Some people are just not phone people. Usually it is men who think of the phone as just a device to get the info over and then go back to what they were doing. If he is like this, that is ok. In a moment when you are together let him know how you feel and ask if you can arrange time with him to hang out and talk then... don't yell. Sure, your frustrations may be coming out when you are with him, but by starting arguments you are making things worse for you and him. You are forcing him to shut down. Try not to start an argument. Gently, when the mood is right, bring up one subject at a time, not all at once or all in one day. I'm sure that once you do learn how to communicate with him, and let him know how to communicate with you, things will get better.
-- from Marc
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