i found out my husband has this girl that he says is a friend but calls for anything she needs.
Visitor's Question from a 41-50 year old Female
i hope you can help me.
ive been married for two years now and i found out my husband has this girl that he says is a friend to him, which is fine, but, this female seems to think its alright to call my husband for anything she needs.
i have gone as far as putting a recorder in his car to see what was going on.
what i heard was did sound like they were just friends, but i also heard him calling her baby, and babe.
and i heard him making plans to hang out with her later on that day.
i have tried to tell him how wrong hes been, and that if i was to do that he would have a fit.
i have told him that he has hurt me by lying to me just for a so called friend?.
i dont know what to do anymore.
all i know is its not right what he has been doing, and it hurts alot to know that she has talked bad about me and he has done nothing to defend me.
i dont even know this person, ive tried talking to her about it but she doesnt care.
what am i to do?, i cant think any more.
If neither of them listen to you, it may be time to leave the situation. You shouldn't let others walk all over you. Howeve, try one more time to talk to hubby nicely but sternly, telling him this hurts you and you are not sure you can continue in the relationship this way. If he listens good, if not leave.
Oh, don't bug anyone's car or phone. He may be mad at you for snooping.
-- from Marc
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