He is not like he use to be. Does he just need space?
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and 5 months. The past couple weeks he has wanted to spend more time with his friends then me. I guess I should not worry because his friend is married. My boyfriend hangs out with his friend and his friend's wife. But he is not like he use to be. He use to beg me to come see him for a little while after I got out of school (I work during the day and go to college at night) but now he just wants to stay with his friends and I go home.
Also, something different. Last week he went to the mall and bought me a pair or gold earrings and a gold chain that I have been saying I was going to buy. He surprised me with the earrings and chain. Which he has never just gone out and bought something for me like that.
We got into a fight about him wanted to be with friends more and I broke it off. But he wouldn't let me alone. He beg for me back. I just don't understand. I am so confused right now, because He wants to see his friends more and me less but he wants to be with me.
Does he just need space?
Sounds like you already know the answer. He just needs a little space to reconnect with himself. If it becomes a chronic thing... months... then there may be something to talk about (and if you do talk, no yelling, be calm and explain how you feel), otherwise, let him have some time to himself because at some point you will want to hang out with your friends, too, when you are less busy and he will need to understand that and what better way than this?
-- from Marc
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