I'm not like the other guys who dog her. I want to be more than friends.

Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
This girl, woman, is very special and and I am just about her only real friend. She has just broken up with her long time counterpart and father of her two kids. He was abusive and has hurt her to the point of considering suicide.
I am the only guy that has shown her any respect at all, Everyone else has hit on her real bad and She laughs in their faces, not to make them get upset with her though.
I want her to be treated with respect and love, she deserves the best and should only be seen as I see her everyday.
I am younger than her and I look as though I am still 16 or 17 years old, Which could make it difficult to even consider me as a potential guy for her.
I am wise for my age and I happen to be slightly feminine and which allows me to be compassionate and understandingto her needs and feelings. I'm a little insecure and have a low self-esteem, which is improving thanks to her. In my past relationships I have been foolish, insensitive, and too nervous to know what to do or say.
I could make her change her entire outlook on men and make it so she never says that there is no man out there that would take her and the kids and still treat her better than her ex-man did. I know I am that man, the problem is how do I get her to be attracted to me and look at me in that frame of mind without blowing my chances of ever getting to be the one to make her as happy as she has shown me to be. Help me please I am desperatly worried for her happines and worried about whether she falls for the wroung guy again.

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The best thing you can do right now is let her recover from her past relationship and when she seems ready to start dating again let her know your feelings.

More than likely she will say, "I don't want to ruin the friendship," at which point you will have to make a decision as to whether you will remain friends with her and swallow your feelings or cut her out of your life. If you cut her out of your life then you will save yourself long-term hurt and an added bonus might be that she realizes how much you mean to her.

Oh, when you tell her of your feelings, let it be known that you are aware of the troubles she's had with men and that the last thing you want to do in a relationship is hurt or use her. Also let her know that you've been feeling this way a long time and waited to tell her until she was emotionally healed... that's how much you respect and care for her.

-- from Marc
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