We Took a Break for Six Months - Should We Break Up?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
My boyfriend and I had been dating for 7 months, when he just stopped talking to me. He said that he needed time to sort things out - his personal life- and he knows me loves me but just isn't sure HOW he loves me.
Now it's been about 6 months since he wrote me a letter telling me this. 2 weeks ago I told him he should bring over the rest of my stuff. Whenever I do talk to him, I ask if we should break up and he says, "I don't know." We were pretty much engaged besides him officially asking me and were planning on getting married in December.
What should I do? How do I get him to make a decision or should I just break up with him?
At this point you've almost been on break for longer than you were together. This is really unfair to you. If HE finds someone new I have no doubt that he'll start dating her immediately and give you an email message saying "sorry I found someone else". But in the meantime while he sorts out his thoughts he's going to keep you on hold?
Relationships are about two people communicating and working on things. For him to just abandon you for 6 months isn't a relationship. That is him going off and having his OWN life without you. It's not your job to be his on-call girl for when he decides he didn't find anything else better looking out there.
You deserve someone who loves you and wants to be with you. Tell this guy that what you have now is NOT a relationship and you are going to find someone who will be in one with you.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com