She's Cooling Off After a Year and a Half
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
I've been with my Girlfriend for a year and a half already. We are inseparable and like other couples we have our differences and sometimes we argue. I know I love her but recently she's being telling me that sometimes she feels she loves me, and sometimes she feels nothing. It hurts me when she tells me that because I dont know what to do.
I tryed being sweet to win her love back and I even asked her if she thought if we needed sometime off from each other. Her response is "I still want you to be with me". I dont know if she wants me to be there for her only as a friend or what?
The thing is she always tells me that if we ever broke up and became friends and she found someone else she would cheat on him with me. I'm also her first boyfriend, the first kiss and first sexual experience. I dont know if she needs to explore more or try new things. I dont know what to do. I do love her dearly but sometimes I feel like I'm in love alone. I gotta find a way to spark up our love again but sometimes we have such busy schedules its hard. She works and I work too. I dont want to leave her and she doesn't want to either.
Despite MTV shows, relationships don't stay hot, heavy and passionate forever. You would burn out! She is settling down into a long term, mature love which is a GOOD thing, but it means she's not obsessing about you 24 hours a day. That's good. You both should be happy to still be together after a year and a half and still caring for each other :)
I have info on how relationships change over the months here -
I of course have a ton of tips too on how to bring sparks into your relationship. But don't build up unrealistic expectations for your relationship. Contentment is a wonderful thing.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com