I'm Obsessed with my Ex Boyfriend
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
Well there is so much im confused about. Well not really confused. Ever since my last i guess you could say relationship with a guy. He left me for another girl and the way he did it was really brutal and i could nver get over it.
Its been over a year and im still in love with him. And there have been so many guys that have come my way want something with me. But i have pushed everyone awway. One guy got really mad and told me i never give anyone a chance and i dont deserve happiness. I cant move on from this other guy. And its not fare to other guys if i go out with them because my feelings arent there.
Everytime this guy asks me for help i help him. I even helped him and his gf work out there problems and get them back together. I did it because i wanted him to be happy. But really i wanted them to break up. I know that sounds really bad but thats the way life goes.
What do i do? at this rate im going to push everyone away. and never have a bf. but the truth is im not ready for anything right now. help me!!!! what do i do. what if he wants me back one day. yah i know he wont but thats all that goes through my head. but if he doesnt want me now. he wont want me later.
how do i get my love life back on track?
It's always hard to get over an ex, but it sounds like you are at the point of obsession. You guys broke up for a reason. Things weren't good. But it sounds like you are focussing on the good parts you miss, forgetting the bad parts, and nobody else can compare.
If you can't get through this on your own, talk to a therapist. Even if it's only for a week or two, the therapist might be able to give you personal advice to get yourself on the right road to recovery. If you simply keep dwelling and obsessing about this ex, you really could drive away other guys who would be FAR better for you in the long term. It'd be a shame for you to end up lonely and alone because of this one guy.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com