I'm Pressuing Him - He's Lying to Me
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
my boyfriend is never at home. see he works and i dont care but i never get to see him and he always has to get off the phone b/c of his 2 stupid sisters.
i been telling him to move in with me but he's like no. latley he's been talking about these other girls and has been lying to me. what do i do????????
A relationship should always be about two people voluntarily doing things. It should never be about one person pressuring the other into something. The fact that you kept pushing him into moving in with you, when he was already busy working and dealing with stress and didn't want to, added trouble to your relationship. It sounds like his method of coping was to go off and find other girls who were less pressure-full.
You need to have a talk with him and explain that you just want to spend more time with him. If he has time to talk to other girls, he has time to talk to you. Heck, cell phones are cheap. Tell him to get a cell phone so you two can talk whenever you want. He shouldn't be depending on a house phone for his personal conversations!
If he's not willing to put the time and effort into the relationship, it sounds like it's time to move on. And most definitely, if he keeps lying, find a new guy. Life is too short to hitch your wagon to a guy that is going to lie and cheat.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com