He Seems to Obsess over Past Relationships
Visitor's Question from a 51-60 year old Female
I am 55 years old and have fallen in love with a man who is 35. We get a long very well together, both emotionally and sexually. He is kind, generous, loving, funny, and we have fun most of the time.
He has a mental disorder: paranoid schizophrenia and uses medications to contol it. This makes no difference to me. I am a nurse and aware of the disease and all its aspects. However, there are times when he is repetetive about certain situations, and I am not sure if this is related to the disease or possibly being uncertain about the relationship. Examples of this are constantly remembering how we met and the complete scenario that incurred. He talks a lot about past ventures we have had. This doesn't bother me, but should i just come out and ask him, or forget the whole thing.
We have both been through some miserable relationship problems in the past, and this one seems absolute bliss. I have been divorced for 3 years after a 34 year marriage, and he has been single all of his life. We are both recovering alcoholics also.
You being a nurse probably have much more insight into his mental condition than I could possibly have! I imagine that sure, his obsession over past situations could easily relate to his mental situation. It doesn't seem very harmful to me, and if it was a happy memory of you two meeting, it could be cute to have him reciting it to family members when you are in your 80s.
If you have bliss, then treasure it. And best of luck with your not drinking! It's not easy to recover from alcoholism, but as you know it can make a huge difference in how happy you are.
-- from Lisa
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