She Doesn't Like Condoms
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
My girlfriend and I are both virgins and we have finaly agreed to have sex for the first time, but she says that she doesn't want me to wear a condom because to her it feels impersonal. I want to wear a condom becuase I want to protect her in case of an STD or her ruining her life by getting pregnant now.
How can I tell her and convince her to let me protect us?
Why in the world does she think a condom is impersonal? I hate to tell her this, but she doesn't have super sensitive touch sensors within her that are even going to know the difference. By her logic, using lingerie and other such clothings are impersonal too because they're not natural. Tell her to think of your condom as your sexual wear.
You are definitely correct, the risk of pregnancy is CRITICAL here. Even if she thinks she is ready to raise a baby, unless you both have steady jobs and a place to stay, you're not ready. Babies are INCREDIBLY expensive to raise and take a great deal of time. They aren't something you should ever just have happen to you by accident.
So definitely wear a condom every single time you have sex. There aren't any safe times. Any time you have intercourse, there is a risk. Unless you are 100% planning to have a child and have your world set up to care for it, you need to take precautions.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com