I Lost my Guy to Religion
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
i have liked this guy for nine years he is a friend of my brothers and he finally told me that he liked me for five years but he had girlfriend at the time so we were seeing each other then he broke up with his girlfriend and we started to go out.
it was the best relationship we were so happy and were together all of the time but then he had gotten into a car accident and a couple of day later he said that we should take a break because he said he felt like he was putting me first and not god.
he is a real strong christian and he should have taken a break from his last girlfriend before we got together but i love him so much and i miss him.
i need help how to ge him back. he said it was a break so what should i do? we still see each other every thursday and sunday at church and we talk on the phone everyday almost so we still are friends. but its hard i want more than that so how can i tell him and get him back please help me...
Accidents can definitely make you want to refocus on what is important in life. But God doesn't want people to live in vaccuums. He in fact says explicitly that he wants men and women to hook up and get married and have kids. Those are sacraments. So if he wants to say that it's important of him to relate to God, a relationship with a woman IS a critical way to do that, if it is in a healthy and loving manner. That's not taking time away from God. If you're a christian, you believe God is everywhere. He's not "absent" from your relationship with your guy! God is IN that relationship.
So talk to your guy and say that the love you guys have for each other is one that was given to you both by God. For him to turn his back on that is to deny what was granted to him. Love is something that many people dream desperately of - and you guys have found it. Don't let that slip away.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com