I Can't Leave my Relationship
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
I'm currently in a relationship that I am not really happy in. For starters I was kind of tricked into getting back in this relationship. We had broken up because I just realized I needed to experience life on my own and I'm too young for a serious relationship. My mistake was still seeing her every once in a while after we broke up and when I started having feelings for another girl she really took it hard. She never really got over me and is really obsessed with me so she would always cry hysterically to make me feel like a bad guy.
Then she tricked me and said she was pregnant, so I felt I had to get back in a relationship with her. Two weeks later while at work, she called me and told me she had a miscarriage. I never saw any forms from the hospital and turns out she never had a pregnancy test done and she just assumed she was pregnant. So now I'm back where I didn't want to be and what makes it wosrt is that she has no family she really gets along with, no friends, she has no one to go to and I feel the responsibility to stay in this relationship even though deep down I really down want to.
I'm with her because if she didn't have me she would probably not make it. I've tried to break up with her a few more times but then she just starts crying over and over, then I start to feel sorry and I tell her that I'll stay around and try to work it out.
What should I do about this relationship? I'm very unhappy, almost at a state of depression. I tend not to care about anything now, not even my appearance and I'm always down. But on the other hand, I can't stand to see her cry. Help me Please!
I would go to therapy with her and say that it's to help the relationship. But hopefully after a few sessions you can start to draw away and let her learn how to get on her own two feet. She can't hold you an emotional hostage to her needs.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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