I'm Cheating and Lying to Two Guys
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I am 20 years old and have been in a serious relationship with my boyfriend for 8 years, we have always been really close and we practically have grown up together. My parents got divorced when i was 15 and i had to move to a different school than him, which made things very difficult between us. During my senior year in highschool when i was 18, my boyfriend called me one night, and told me he had cheated on me with a 15 year old girl, but that they had just kissed. This was the first time anything bad had ever happened between us, and we hardly spoke for 3 weeks.. he didn't want much to do with me.
Anyways a month or so after this, i began to cheat on him with one of my close guy friends at my school. The problem im having is, i kept seeing this guy on the side and eventually we became very serious, and we fell deeply in love. . but i still have my boyfriend of 8 years.
Neither one of them know that i am seeing the other one, and i have been doing this now, for almost 4 years. I see my boyfriend of 8 years on the weekends, because he works during the week, and i see my new boyfriend of 4 years during the week. I lie to both of them, and i cannot stop cheating,
i love them both so much and i won't let go of either one. I know what im doing is wrong, but i have fallen into a pattern of some sort.. Neither one of them are seeing anyone except me, and i have only been with the two of them, so it's not like im running around on both of them. I need advice quick! Please.
You need honesty. That is the most important thing you can have in any relationship. You caused the situation, so it's your responsibility to handle it. Sit down with each of them and tell them the truth. They deserve to know - and they deserve to hear it directly from you.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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