I Became Clingy - He Pulled Away
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
me and my bf have been together for a year now, this is amazing to me because i have never been with a guy for more than 2 weeks. i am completly in love with him.
lately we have been having problems, over the summer we were NEVER apart except when i went to my other parents house. i picked up the habit and now i cant drop it, he says he loves me and he loves spending time with me but i cant come down all the time, and now he is saying i track him down cuz i called his friends house one day because no one answered at his house and he said i could come down when his friend went home, so i only called to see if they were home cuz if they were i was gonna walk to his house, and now he thinks im trying to track him down
im really depressed about all this cuz i love him so much and i know he loves me, but he dont wanna be with me it seems, and i need advice on how i can try and keep him, how can i make him happy to be with me, and please dont tell me to dump him i need advice on how i can be a better gf!
It's always important to have balance in life. If you are obsessed with someone, that isn't love. It's important that you both have other friends, and interests that make you happy. He sounds like he is starting to feel smothered.
Take a step back and tell him that you understand his need for his own space. Tell him that you're there for him, but that you also don't mind each of you having other friends too. If you show him this is true for a few weeks, he should get less nervous.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com