How do I Give a Hickey

Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
I've been going out with a girl for 2 and a half months now. Everything is going great except the fact that she wants me to give her a hickey. She does it to me but i don't do it because i don't know how to. I read your site on how to do it but it doesn't quite work. I seen other people do it and it looks different then how you explained it. They do it fancy and use their teeth. Can you explain it to me and give me tips. I'm sure she had hickey's from boys before and i don't want to suck at it. Thanks! Advice
Using your teeth is nasty. Remember, this is her BLOOD and skin you're talking about!! People who say you have to use teeth aren't doing it properly at all - and they could cause serious damage to someone's neck. Remember, the neck carries blood vessels up to your BRAIN. You don't want teeth involved there!!

Hickeys are bruises. Some people bruise easily, other people bruise with more difficulty. It sounds like she wants a mark of "ownership" on her - it's not like the act of getting a hickey is exactly pleasureable :) Although there are people into pain, maybe she's one of them. In any case, what you're doing is bruising her skin so she goes around with a bruise. In the old days people HID the bruises their boyfriends gave them, ah how times change.

In any case what you do is form a suction with your mouth and then suck in. That causes the blood vessels near the skin to break, which is a bruise. It's hard to do this on a neck sometimes because it has bumps and such and it's hard to make a suction. So tell her you want to give her a hickey on her stomach! That's a nice, flat surface. Tell her that necks are boring, everybody gets hickeys on their neck because it's "safe". It's a non-intimate location. Then practice up on her stomach. Then tell her you want to do one on her thigh, etc. Those neck-only guys will be quite jealous!

-- from Jenn
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