We Were Close - She Drifted Away

Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
it all happens like this since i was in secondary school ,there is this girl actually she is a junior to me in school,i really love this girl so much,i always keep thinking of her but i was shy to approach her and afterall i seniored her with one class that is i was in class 2 and she was in class 1 but anytime we see eachother we keep looking at each other until it gets to a stage where by she explain to her friend and she and her friend planned everything then this particular girl sent her friend to a friend os mine to tell me that she said i keep looking at her why cant i come and approach her am i afraid .

actually,i taught my friend was pulling my legs then as time goes on i realize its true then i was confused i dont know where to start from ,and we have only a week to spend in school for vacation,then i keep sending her letters and when we resume school i went to her with boldness and courage to talk to her but she shuned me ,then i feel so embarrassed.

as time goes on then i called one of my closset friend and told him about her and he told me he knows her house .then we both fixed a date to go and check her at home may be she will realize i really love her.

so,we went to her house and i saw her,i talk to her ,i express my feelings to her and ask her that will she be my girlfriend and she replied telling me its not possible and i keep disturbing her and she later tell me she has to think about it that i should come and see her in a week time then i went to her place again to ask for my reply then she told me again that its not possible that she has not finished thinking she prospone again and told me to come back for reply in aweek time and i went to her place after a week and she told me this thing and she prosponed again till the whole year was gone and this it making it 1 and the half year.

but luckily,this year she accept my proposal and told me she will be my girlfriend i was so happy and exicted to hear from her that she accepted then we kep going into relationship .we are moving happily and we understand eachother.

our relationship is allmost going up to 2month then her reaction towards me start changing then i asked her whats wrong and whe told me she has a boyfriend and i bring her down and told her that dosent matter so far i love her she loves me too it dosent matter and she said its okey and i asked her a question and told her are u sure u really love me then she replied happily and tell me yes she do.

and as time goes on i reealize again that her reaction is changing to the extent that when ever i go to house she keep delaying me before she comes out and she wont see me off when am going but i dont still worried about that.

but the most painfull one is that it was me and my friend who went to her house and i saw her talking to a guy outside of her compound but we taught it was just a male friend or her neithbour as in may be they where just gisting and me and my friend dont want to disturb their discussion so we sent one of her neithbour to her and asked her to call her for me and she said she is coming .so chill for a while but she is talking with that guy and me and my friend keep suspecting her and now she as delayed us for good 30minute and she later send her female friend to me and tell me that its her elder brother that was talking to her that we should chill for a while that she is coming .but she keep delaying again now its 10minute gone making it 40minute of delaying.

so as time goes on we realize that guy was her boyfriend and not a nethbour and my friend get upset and went straigh to them and excuse her she came then she come over to me and she is trying to claim her right that it was her senior brother so i get upset also and i shout at her and told her why is she lieing to me and my friend also insulted her and i do this same so as time goes on we settled everything within me ,she and my friend and we are about to go and i asked her to see me off and she repied telling me she is busy do something important at home ,so me and my friend now left so when me and my friend was going then we just decided to branch and take some chilled drink before we go then in a couple of minute we saw her seeing offthe guy she was talking to and afterall she told us she was busy she cant see us off.

so me and my friend move closer to them and see them talking to eachother in one silent corner of a place and we let her see realize that we saw her.

inshort ,she keep telling me lies all the time and anytim i asked her to come to my house for a visit she will say yes she will come and later she will dissapoint me she wont come while i was at home expecting her ,now its 8month of relationship she as not one day come to my house.

i just want to know if this girl really loves me or not or advice me on how to do with her.

RomanceClass.com Advice
There is a saying that actions speak louder than words. You have really tried to force this girl to bend to your will, but she is an individual and will do as she pleases. Apparently she is interested in disrespecting you and spending time with other guys. It's time to let her go, and to find a woman who is truly meant to be with you. You can never force someone to want to be with you.

-- from Lisa
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