Jealous about my Ex's New Boyfriend
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
here's the thing... when i broke up with my gf there were no hard feelings or anything; it was mutual. and my other relationship with another girl afterword sort of dwindled down to nothing, and then we seperated.
what i want to know is why whenever i see one of my old girlfriends hanging out with another guy it drives me insane?
Breakups are never easy - there are always lingering issues. You cared about these women and at one time YOU were the person they held and spent time with. So to see the women with other men seems to say that you were "not good enough" and that someone else is "better than you", at least as far as the women are concerned. Which bothers you of course, since you cared enough for them to spend your time and energy on them at one point in time.
It always takes time to let things go and to get past those emotions. So it's OK to feel jealous about what your exs have moved on to doing. After some time passes it won't matter much at all - you'll realize that you just weren't a good fit for them, and that it's good that they found someone who WAS a good fit - and that you find someone who is a good fit for you.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com