We're Friends, Had Sex and Things Faded Away
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
OK, I HAVE HAD A CRUSH ON ONE OF MY GUY FRIENDS FOR OVER A YEAR NOW. LAST YEAR WE WERE REALLY CLOSE, WE HUNG OUT ALMOST EVERYDAY. I LIKED HIM AND HE LIKED ME BUT IT NEVER REALLY WENT ANYWHERE.
THEN A COUPLE MONTHS AGO WE ENDED UP HAVING SEX BUT AFTER THAT HE COMPLETELY IGNORED ME FOR MONTHS CUZ MY EX BOYFRIEND AND HIM GOT INTO A FIGHT ABOUT IT. WELL RECENTLY, ME AND THIS GUY HAVE BEEN HANGING OUT AGAIN AND MESSIN AROUND BUT WE ARENT CLOSE LIKE WE USE TO BE WHICH DRIVES ME NUTS.
HOW DO I GET THINGS BACK THEY WAY THEY USE TO BE? HOW DO I KNOW IF HE REALLY LIKES ME OR IS JUST USING ME?? PLEASE HELP! I CARE ABOUT HIM ALOT
Sex can really make things confused, which is why it's usually best to wait until you're really sure about the emotional side before you bring sex into the equation.
Emotional closeness is something that has to be actively worked on. It doesn't just happen. So work on it every day. Find ways to have talks with him, spend time with him in non-sexual ways. Give that relationship a chance to grow and take hold again.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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