We're Good but He's Always Studying
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Well I have been with a guy for honestly about 3 months. I have known him for 4 years and he has liked me since I was 17, but that time I was not ready for a relationship. During that time, we had less communication and I continued my life and so did he, but he I felt I was ready we got intouch and now we are together. I feel great when I am with him, but I find that he keeps the distance. We both believe that he hope to marry each other and we are working on that but we have found out that his family do not approve of me. They have not met me or even seen me, or even spoke to me, but they think I am not the righ tone for him. So we are having a relationship and hope we can get over this factor. He always say to me, "think of the best and prepare for the worse."
Anyway moving on... I love him and he loves me, but he keeps saying "if my parents told me to chose between the girl I love or us, I dont know what I would do." I said thats ok, lets continue and make the relationship stronger. So now I am in a stage, that I love someone and I am going out with him, which is fine.
However, another problem is that when he is at home, he doesnt have time to communicate with me, and i believe relationships are built on this, am i right?
We are both sitting our major exams this comin June, so he has decided without talking to me about it, to discontinue to talk to the world and sit in his room and study. I dont mind, but I feel like shit.. coz I feel I am nothing to him. He doesnt answer my emails, calls and I dont want to sound like I am harrassing him, what should I do? Call it a day, end it here? SHould I wait till our exams are over?
I am so confused about this relationship, bt I dont wana lose him coz I lov him.
Three months is a REALLY short period of time in a relationship. You haven't even met his family yet! Don't stress about things yet. Work on the relationship. Spend time writing him letters, calling him, talking to him, building it up. Find a way to meet with his family in a neutral setting. There's no rush if you two are meant to be together forever.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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