I Love Him - He's an AddictVisitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
There is this boy i love so very much, he loves me too and he promised me marriage. Am 2 months older than him and am into the higer instution but he is not yet in school. That isn't the matter now 'cos i know things will work out by God's grace.
The problem i have with him is that he smokes tobacco and takes indian hemp. I have tried stopping him but he's always saying "i'll stop it my love". The last time i told him, he said he wants to stop smoking but he can't and that he can't stop taking indian hemp, that it makes him happy and cool.
I don't know what else to do, i want him to stop taking it. I don't want him to die young, i love him so much and wants the best for him. I need your advice please.
He won't stop because it makes him "cool"??? He has to do something in order to appear cool to the world? That's a pretty idiotic reason to do anything. If he loves you, and you love him, and this is really important to you then surely your happiness is more important than a "coolness factor"??
Heck if I had a leather jacket that I thought made me look cool, and my boyfriend hated the jacket with a passion, do you think I'd keep wearing it just because I wanted to look cool? Look cool to who? I care more about how strangers view me vs my own boyfriend?
-- from Lisa
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You can't stop him
Maybe dump him
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