I Cheated - Now He Won't Trust Me
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I have had a huge crush on one of my guy friends for about a year now. A couple months ago, we ended up having sex and my boyfriend found out so after that this guy friend stopped talking to me completely for about 4 months. It drove me crazy. Lately we have been hanging out again, but it just isn't like it use to be at all, and there is no way I am talking to him about it! We have had sex a couple times recently too, and I really like him, but I am so scared he is just using me. He use to like me so much too, which makes it even harder.
How can I get him to like me again, and trust that I won't cheat on him or treat him bad like I did my ex?? I have tried to get over this guy but it just doesn't work out! I'm obsessed! Why doesn't he like me?????
Guys don't tend to respect girls that cheat. Those are the types of girls they sleep around with but not the ones they date. If you have already proven you're willing to cheat if the opportunity is right, how can any guy trust that you won't cheat with someone else in the future because you run into someone that is cuter / more muscular or whatever?
Either you talk with him about the issue and address it, or you have to expect he'll keep using you because he figures that's what you are about. It's up to you to fix the situation.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com