He Goes Out to Bars
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
My husband and I just recently got married but we have had this issue since we moved in together three years ago. He goes to the bar after work too much for my liking. It has gotten a lot better than it was... now most of the time he will call me to let me know and he dosen't go out quite as much as he had been. We agreed on 1-2 nights a week as a compromise for him to go out to the bar with his friends. He usually does not stick to this and goes out a third night. This usually gets me sooo mad.
After we talk about it, he seems to understand why I am so angry and he says that he will try to do better. He never does. He thinks that if he is just out for an hour or two it dosn't matter but to me it does. Talking about this dosn't seem to do anything! Thanks.
Everybody needs friends and time with them. You shouldn't be sitting home, alone in the dark every night waiting for him to come home and bring you back to life. You should have your own life and your own interests. Certainly you two should have fun together. But you shouldn't be a mindless rag doll when he is away from you.
Get some friends of your own. Go out with them in the evenings when he has his bar nights. Go to a romantic movie, go for walks, go shopping, go bowling, whatever it is you like to do. You can't live your entire life being an emotional leech on a single person, that isn't healthy.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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Let him go