I'm 27 - She's Only 14

Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
There is this girl in my life that has been flirting with me for the passed two years. And for the passed two years I have considered it a invitation for friendship which I accepted. Then she began to flirt with me a little more intensely. But I became uncomfortable with how much more it was so I back away slowly. Then one day I woke up and I had this strong felling in my heart that I was in love with her. Then I began to observe her behavior to make sure she was some one I wanted to court. And I found that she is funny, intelligent, virgin, pretty, cool, and the list gos on. I mean I've bean waiting all my life for some one like her! When I found out that she is 14 my heart sank to the bottom of the abyss.

This makes her 13 years younger than me! I don't want to have sex with her because I practice no sex until marriage, purity is very important to me! But my heart still longs for her with platonic love. I asked her how old she thought I was and she said 19, O how I wish I was 19! When I toled hear I was 27 she became embarrassed and now she avoids me. I want to love her, but I'm afraid of the unpure villagers. They might come after me with pitch forks and torches. I can't help but feal like a beast right now.

So how do I make things good between us again? I know persistence will make thing worse. Even if love is out of the picture I still strongly value her friendship. Is their any hope?

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She was flirting with you when she was 12 and you were 25 - and you never realized she was only 12 years old?? Certainly you realized she was not of legal age! I think most parents would be horrified at the thought of their 12 year old girl - probably not even having per period with - getting into flirtations with someone older than college age.

Many pre-teen girls form affections for much older guys, it's sort of a way they wean themselves off their fathers, and learn about love in a 'safe' way. Unfortunately in your case it's not so safe since you actually are thinking about going after her! I highly suggest you put some distance between you and her, and let her grow up on her own terms. If she turns 18 and is still interested in you on her own - WITHOUT your proddings - then that is something to then think about. But if you persue her when she is young and impressionable, you will never know if she WOULD have chosen you with a mature, free mind.

-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com

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