logo


Romantic Forums! Get the answers you seek quickly and easily! If you can't find what you need
here amongst our tens of thousands of tips and questions, be sure to Post in our Romantic Forum!
We've got over 9,800 members ready to give you a hand!
A Love Quote
We cannot do great things on this Earth, only small things with great love. --Mother Teresa



Jealousy and the Stripper



Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I am 22 years old. I have 2 issues. I am 3 months pregnant and still with my boyfriend of only 5 months. He grew up with this girl and I thought she was cool but she never talks to him anymore since him and I started dating and one day she emailed me to have him call her because she wanted to go out with him (bluntly saying that I was not invited). Hes a great guy but doesnt see why this would hurt me.

Am I jealous or do I have a right to stand my ground?

Also we talk about getting married but he thinks that a stripper at his party is okay (which obviously I disagree with). I am Catholic and always have been and went to Catholic School and just don't believe in the whole stripper, stripper clubs scene and never did. I'd rather go out to a Cubs game with a bunch of friends than go spend money on that.

Now is this fixable or do I just give in and stay upset? Please give me some input. Thank you so much for your time in advance.




RomanceClass.com Advice
It definitely is very rude for anybody to call YOU and then say they want to see your partner without them. It wouldn't matter if it was a girl or a guy or someone else. Now, let me say that guys SHOULD have female friends and girls SHOULD have guy friends, it helps them be rounded. But the couple should always be the 'primary unit'. You three should go out together and have fun and be a group. Sure, if she wanted to meet him after dinner for drinks sometime because you were busy, that would be one thing. And if he wanted a night out with the guys throwing darts, that would be fine too. But for her to call you and say "I want to see your guy without you" is just plain rude. At that point she's not being a "family friend" - she's being a friend that is deliberately telling you to get lost.

Next, I realize that it can seem like strippers are a huge threat. But we're not talking about him going to strip clubs every night while you're home with the kid. We're talking about the "traditional bachelor's party" - and we're not even talking lap dances or other sultry items. We're talking about guys taking pleasure in the female body. Hopefully you want your guy enjoying the female body! Yes normally it's yours, but just like porn movies and porn magazines can help liven up a couple's own sex life, so can a stripper. It's his last hurrah / chance to see a naked female other than you for the rest of his life. A last celebration of his youth.

Think of it as a rite of passage. You are going to have many of your own rites as you go from 'girl' to 'woman' here, becoming a mother. You're going to have all sorts of showers and talks with moms and other girly things. And of course the birth. He doesn't really get any of that as he tries to transition to "being a father" which is equally as serious. He can't give birth - he can only watch. He doesn't dress up or anything for the wedding - he can only watch as you are the object of adoration. So the bachelor's party is sort of his one night to jump up and down and say "I'm leaving behind my boyhood! I'm about to become responsible for a wife and a child!" He's not going to cheat on you. He's just going to have a woman dance around to be part of that celebration, sort of a good bye to the opportunities of bachelorhood and a recognition between him and all his friends that a new chapter in his life is starting.

This is a really hard thing for guys. Women have TONS of support in becoming a steady married person. Guys have lots of *negative* images with being whipped and under the thumb and everything else that go with marriage. So I would be lenient here and not make him feel like he has to beg for permission from you even for his last party ...

-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com





Add RomanceClass  to Twitter Add RomanceClass  to Facebook Add RomanceClass  to MySpace Add RomanceClass  to Del.icio.us Digg RomanceClass+ Add RomanceClass  to Yahoo My Web Add RomanceClass  to Google Bookmarks Add RomanceClass  to Stumbleupon Add RomanceClass  to Reddit
 


Speak Your Mind - Share your Thoughts on this Question!

All Advice in the category - Jealousy Issues

Browse our Answer Database
- Browse Answers by Question Category
- Browse Answers by Age Group
- Browse Answers by Date of Response



Please read through the advice on this site before you Submit your Own Question! We have thousands of pages of valuable advice that can immediately help you with your situation.
Advertisement


Sparkly Irridescent Glitz Gel

Going to a party or special event? What to feel special no matter what you're doing? Roll on some glitz! Perfect for adding a special bit of sparkle to your day or evening.

Buy Glitz Gel at EclecticLady.com




Bookmark this site so you can reference it any time you need romantic / relationship info in the future!

Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Twitter Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Facebook Add Romance+Class+Website+ to MySpace Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Del.icio.us Digg Romance+Class+Website+ Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Yahoo My Web Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Google Bookmarks Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Stumbleupon Add Romance+Class+Website+ to Reddit


 

Follow Me on Pinterest


Romantic Tshirts, Bags, Mugs and More!

Love is Patient
Love is Patient ...
Deeply Loved
Deeply Loved ...
Random Kindness
Random Kindness ...

These are just a small selection - Visit the RomanceClass Shop!

Join This Newsletter!


 
RomanceClass on Facebook




Join This Newsletter!

Past Issues





| About RomanceClass | Advertising | Privacy Policy | Submit a Suggestion |
All content copyright 2013 Minerva WebWorks LLC. All rights reserved.

this site is for amusement only - professional advice is not being rendered

French Wedding