Getting Rid of a Rival
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
there's this party in school this sunday, and she's the only reason I'm going to this party... so PLEASE reply this as soon as possible. I wanna ask her to dance but I doesn't know the correct way to ask her to dance with me... there's this guy who is VERY IRRITATING who phones to her every day and talk junk with her, every day when I wanna sit with her, he'll get there first
I don't think he likes her, he's just want me to get jealous of him! but I think he's a dangerous chance to take... can you teach me how to get rid of him... ONCE AND FOR ALL
Talk about an unhealthy attitude! You're acting as if this girl is a trophy or something. She is an intelligent person with a brain of her own. She gets to choose who to be with. You don't get to choose for her. If you treat her as a toy or an object, then to be honest you won't last long with her. No human likes to be treated this way.
If you want her to like you, then put forth the effort to spend time with her. That "he gets there first" is hardly an excuse! This other guy phones her. Obviously you aren't. This other guy makes the effort to talk with her. You aren't. You can't blame him for your own shortcomings. You have to take responsibility for your own actions and start putting forth your own efforts. Call her! Go dance with her!
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com