Is She Friends or Something More?

Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
Hey, I need some good advice because I'm really confussed at the moment about some stuff. I'm almost 17 and I've dated about 3 girls seriously and a bunch that only lasted a week or a little more. Things are going good for me, I have lots of friends, playing for a provincial soccer team, and girls say I'm pretty good looking. I don't like to think about that it's just a vanity that I hate some guys get right into it, sure it's nice to be thought of that way but people get conceited about it.

Anyways I've been friends with this girl for like 4 almost 5 years now and I think I like her. I'm friends with some of her friends and they tell me she talks about me sometimes and says I'm a great guy and good-looking so I dunno if she likes me or something. She said we're such good friends that she doesn't know if we could go out so I have no clue what that means, is she scared to ruin our friendship? I honnestly don't have a clue about how to talk to her about this and I've been reading your ideas about start slow and go on some fun dates and that's a good idea for some and I've already done that with her sometimes but I'd really just prefer to get it over with but i dunno what I should do to start the topic. Where I come from people will know if you like someone by just asking them on dates like that so I'd really rather get it over with and I need some advice as to how I cna do it.

How cna you tell if a girl likes you??? Is there signs that they'll show? I read the section of your's on that but it's sometimes a little hard to tell if their pupils are dialted without looking like a freak going up and studying them lol. Because there's this other girl and she's pretty good looking and she's nice, we've talked a couple time she says hi every once and a while and lately she's like taking an interest in me or somethin. She always sits within a seat of me on the bus and I sometimes see her staring at me. Her and one of her friends sometimes looks at me and talks but I have no idea if it's about me. I could be wrong but I wish I could read a woman's mind :)

Thanks for your time. Advice
There is NO way to know if someone likes you. All signs can mean something else. The only way you know how someone feels is to talk to them.

If you have a female you're interested in, then spend time with her. Become friends with her. Take her to movies as a friend. Take her to get food as a friend. I have a whole group of tips on how to go from friend to boyfriend-girlfriend. Follow the steps, and good luck!

-- from Lisa
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