I Trusted a Friend - He Betrayed Me
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I've been friends with this guy for about 3 years. We used to date on and off, but it's always been more of a friendship thing. But a few nights ago, we got *intimate*, and I realized how I really felt about him after that.
Thing is, he hasn't spoken to me since, he's going around telling people personal things about me, and he's just being a flat out JERK! I wrote him a note telling him how I felt, and he threw it away before he even read it. And it hurts to much because I thought he was my friend, and I thought he was better than that. I never thought he would be one to use me.
It hurts so much. I can't think about anything else, and how I was stupid enough to believe that someone like him would want someone like me. And it just hurts to have lost a friend, one who I thought cared. I don't know what to do. Please help me!
It may be that he wasn't ready for a real relationship yet and got afraid once you "crossed the line", that you'd want to tie him down. So he in essence cut your plan off by destroying the relationship before it could get to that point. He was a complete jerk and immature about it, I agree with that completely. But I doubt that he was friends with you for 3 years as part of some long, insidious plot. It's more likely that he did and does like you and this is a panic reaction.
Give him a few weeks break time. Let him be a jerk. Once the situation calms down a bit, that would be when to have a chat with him and call him to task - gently - for his actions and see where to go from there.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com