He's Hiding Me
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
After 2 years together with my boyfriend, he still not dare to tell his family that he has a girlfriend. I feel not secure in this relationship and everytime i asked him to tell his family, he said that he need time. He is 30 years old.
Our relationship have on and off. Everytime argue, we broke up but a few days later we together again. I am very tired of this.
The main things that i really unsatisfied is he never introduce me to his family. Because of it, i can't fully trust on him. What should i do?
You guys have been together for TWO YEARS and he still won't tell his family about you? And he's 30 years old? This isn't some 13 year old we're talking about, whose mom could tell him to stop seeing you. This is an adult, and he's been an adult for a decade. It's about time he started doing what was right in his life because it's what he chose - not ruling his life because of fears of how his family is going to react.
You're quite right to be worried about why he's not letting you meet his family after all this time. Is he afraid they're going to tell you something about him that will drive you away? Does he trust you so little after all these years? Heck, we all have screwy families. But you still spend time with them. That's what family is all about. If he can't even risk having you and his family in the same room, what does that really say about his long term situation when YOU are his family? Is he going to keep you apart from other people he knows?
I would tell him that you love him, that you'll stand by him, and that it's time for him to do the same. You guys can face the family together. But hiding all the time is never a solution.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com