He's left me, how do I get him back?
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
How do I get a guy back?
This guy that I was dating for a month broke things off with me, claiming that he wasn't over his ex-girlfriend (not true). He was harrassed by his "single" friends about spending excessive time with me, and I think that he just got scared. I see him all the time because we work together, and I still like him. I want him back, or I want to attempt to get him back, what
should I do?
A relationship really needs to be between both people who actively want it and are willing to work on it. If it's only you trying to push him into it, it's not going to work out. So if it's going to work, he has to see it as something he wants to do and is willing to put effort into.
If his worry was that he was spending too much time with you, then go into it slowly. Don't ask him to date, if he's skittish. Just keep chatting with him and being his friend. If you see a movie that's one you would both enjoy, ask him if he'd like to go with you, just as friends. If he was scared before, it might be that you guys lept into dating without developing a strong friendship first. Work on the friendship part and do things as friends. That was as you spend more and more time with each other, it won't be a thing that 'takes away from his friends' - it'll be time he IS spending with a friend.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com